Although vaginismus is often viewed in society as a sexual dysfunction belonging only to the woman, it is actually a shared crisis that affects the marriage and the relationship. The male partner's attitude is one of the most critical factors determining the success or failure of overcoming this crisis. During vaginismus treatments, great importance is placed on the role and approach of the partner.
What the Male Partner Needs to Do
The following approaches by male partners during the treatment process accelerate recovery:
- Avoiding Accusatory Language: Refraining from statements like "You don't love me," "You could do it if you wanted to," or "You are tensing up on purpose." Understanding that vaginismus contractions are completely involuntary and reflexive.
- Showing Patience: Stopping the moment the woman wants to stop during intercourse attempts and not creating pressure.
- Active Participation in Treatment: Accompanying the partner to examinations and clinical sessions, and supporting her during home exercises.
The Power of Couple Communication
The greatest common denominator among couples who succeed in vaginismus treatment is that they face this process together, without blame, viewing it as a shared struggle. Therefore, cooperation between the male partner and the physician during the treatment process is a critical step.